Privacy & safety

Grief is tender. So is your data.

Plain language, no legal fog. Here is exactly what is private, what is shared, and what we do with it.

Only you can see these

  • Your daily check-ins (how heavy today felt) and any note attached to them.
  • Your private journal entries, prompts and moods.
  • The dates that matter to you and your reminder settings.
  • Your email address — it is never shown to other members.

Other signed-in members can see these

  • Your display name, profile photo, bio and the loss you named.
  • Posts and replies you write inside a circle.
  • Memories you share on the memory wall, including photos you attach.
  • Open requests you post on the shoulder board.

Only your matched person can see these

  • Messages inside a shoulder match. They are readable by the two of you and nobody else.
  • If you close a match, the conversation stops; ask us and we will delete it.

What we do with your email

  • We use it to sign you in, to send a welcome note if you joined the waitlist, and for account or safety messages.
  • We do not sell it, rent it, or hand it to advertisers.
  • Every non-essential email has an unsubscribe link.

Moderation

  • Anything you post can be reported by another member.
  • Moderators can read reported posts, replies and memories in order to remove harmful content.
  • Moderators cannot read your journal, your check-ins, or your shoulder messages.

Deleting your things

  • You can delete your own posts, replies, memories and journal entries at any time.
  • You can remove your profile photo from the profile page.
  • Ask us to close your account and we will delete your profile and personal content.

This is peer support

  • You Grieving Me Too is not therapy, counselling, or a crisis service, and nothing here is medical advice.
  • If you are in danger, call 988 (US) or your local emergency number.

Questions about your data? Reply to any email we send you and a real person will answer.